Last night we went to coffee with Ally for a bit and my website came up in discussion. which is good even though it was mostly complaints. Ally says she likes my stuff and she tolerates the stupid old school videos that i put up, but she hates when i talk about video games because its boring. the fact that she has to sift through my writings about what a neato game it was that i just played or want is annoying to her. i know Ally and i love that woman, so its more funny than offensive that she would say that. its just her, she doesn't know it, and it doesn't interest her, so get it out of her face. the end.
but still, video games... boring. thats what she told me. that video game talk is boring. i was shocked, yes. but me being the man that i am, i tried to see it from her point of view. she doesn't play them, she doesn't know anything about them (other than that she finds talking about them boring). she doesn't like them and shuns people who do or teases them. i find that nuts because the gaming populace has increased to a larger percentage of the population as computers became more prevalent in homes. that is to say, you probably know more than a couple gamers. often, your favorite persons are in fact gamers. but she is not alone.
there is a matter of the preconceived notion of gamers and the experience of knowing gamers. these two things are absolutely separate. the idea is that they're absent lost people who live remotely in the game world and have no other interests. thats untrue, wholly untrue. during the experience of knowing a gamer, you can find them to be just like anyone else with interests similar to your own.
when i play games, i am into my games. when i listen to music, i am into my music and i play games. when i read a book, i read a book and occasionally listen to music with it. gamers are driven people who like to achieve goals constantly and games satisfy that. gamers can be competitive beyond comprehension, with that satisfied by games, you would never know it. two gamers always have something to talk about, games, movies, books, news. games tend to have writers who have to develop good stories around the games or they flop. if you've only ever played tetris and you hate halo, you wouldn't know that. nor would you understand why two gamers discuss them in depth like a 700 page novel. a game can be an energetic dancer, a car enthusiast, a war history connoisseur, a comic book nerd, a puzzle game fanatic, a music freak, an animal lover, a businessman, an architect, an explorer, or even a networking socialite
so while i understand the preconceived notion of what a gamer is and hold no grudge against anyone who holds that to be the fact. i encourage you to take a good look at games and gamers or accept that you are as closed-minded and dim-witted as someone who holds a real bias based on race.
how would non-gamers like it if we (gamers) said, a non-gamer is a generalizing petty person who watches far too many sitcoms and wastes away their money on momentary pleasures, expensive foods, and extravagant furniture to better their exterior image and isolate themselves from what is similar, pretending to be superior. said "ugh, a non-gamer" when we met them, and treated them like outcasts who are below the level of normal human beings .
it may seem that way, too. but thats the downfall of a generalization. it only picks out the worst qualities in some of the best individuals.
games are boring, music is boring, art is boring, coding php can be boring, my chatter can be boring. but not to everyone.
i could see that, if i had put like a bunch of exclamation points and bold caps in there. it seems like whenever i say something someone doesnt like they try to interject a ridiculous negative tone into my writing. for future example:
[ This is Angry\Unreasonable Timm ]
[ this is not ]
can't figure out how to comment on specific topics on your page... so i'll post here. gaming: = boring to me too. gamers= no opinion on gamers... hey, we all have interests... the problem arises when a person only has one interest. as for your endeavor into "understanding the ebb and flow of the female mind"
well, sorry to say, but you'll never understand... men have been attempting this since man was created for woman. unless of course you inject yourself with female hormones.... which may give you a better edge and move you closer to the nirvana of understanding women, (but take the lesson from barry...) there are always hazards from hormone injection.... your gaming days would be over.
i cant buy the whole women don't game thing, i know girls who game hardcore. for a while it was hard for me to understand the concept, but i have been defeated by more than a few girls of gaming (as they're often called) over the years. i myself have witnessed you and your skills in gaming. so while you find games boring, you don't find "all" games boring "all of the time". you play when the opportunity presents itself as being more interesting than not.
but then we go back to the opinion that gamers only have one thing on their mind. i wonder if this leads to an idea that theres only one kind of game. and i wonder if its a female idea; that when a game is interesting, its not a video game in the traditional sense.
Since you seem to want to hash this out on your blog instead of in person---
Timm, the more I read your "gamer vs non-gamer" post the more I find it offensive and rude. If you had something to say about my response about gaming, you should have stated it to my face while we were at coffee or brought it up directly with me.
I never made any generalizations about gamers, some of my best friends are heavily interested in video games (including GIRLS) and are wonderful people and even extroverted. I never said anything about gamers being intoverted nomads. I simply said when reading your blog I skip over the gaming talk because it doesn't interest me. I have the right not to be interested in gaming,Timm, just as you have the right not to be interested in whatever extracurricular activities I may have an interest in, may it be talk about politics, literature or the newest nail polish color that's out.
Maybe you should think long and hard before you go on a public form and insinuate that people you know are "petty...close-minded and dim-witted."